A few posts I've read recently got me thinking. . . . can someone be grateful and yet still complain? One oft-suggested strategy for complaining less is to shift focus to gratitude. But I think one can be truly grateful for something and still feel annoyed or challenged by it.
One example: I have a good job that I am lucky to have, especially in the current economic climate. Many people would be happy to have my job. I'm happy to have it, too, but I still complain from time to time about certain aspects of it (annoying opposing counsel, difficult clients, capricious partner/supervisors, to name a few). Does that mean I am not grateful for my job?
Another: we have a dog we love. MM regularly picks up his poo in the back yard and takes him for a nightly walk, but occasionally he complains about doing these things. Doesn't mean he doesn't appreciate our dog; he does. It's just not fun to pick up poo, or to go for a walk in the neighborhood when it's 100+ outside after dark.
Even things in life that are great in the main have aspects that are hard. Pregnancy is a good example. I am thrilled to "finally" be pregnant with twins, but that doesn't mean that it has been, or will be, easy. I try to confine the majority of my complaining to MM (who, let's face it, should be willing to listen at a minimum), but I am sure that some of the thoughts I've posted on here about my nausea, heartburn and fatigue may have come across as complaints.
I don't think that complaining means someone is not grateful. I think it is usually an acknowledgement of the hard aspects of whatever she's experiencing. But I come from a family of kvetchers, so maybe I'm wrong.
What do you think? Are complaints and gratitude incompatible?