tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post8935696765039480519..comments2023-06-01T08:53:53.341-07:00Comments on Misconceptions About Conception: Gratitude and complainingShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-66058487893167066522011-09-20T12:51:51.877-07:002011-09-20T12:51:51.877-07:00Throughout these experiences (IVF, 2WW, BFN, BFP, ...Throughout these experiences (IVF, 2WW, BFN, BFP, PG, morning sickness) it is perfectly normal for both the good and bad to co-exist. You can hate feeling nauseated at the same time as being 100% grateful at being pregnant. Both at the same time.Jemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480192191711301637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-23616422055698273562011-09-18T19:44:03.221-07:002011-09-18T19:44:03.221-07:00Pregnancy is hard! I can't imagine how much h...Pregnancy is hard! I can't imagine how much harder it is with twins. And this is your space to talk about how you feel! Absolutely, we all are grateful and frustrated about many aspects of life. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for using your blog for YOU!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-72615751527905221802011-09-18T15:39:55.500-07:002011-09-18T15:39:55.500-07:00Hell no. For us especially. We build up fairy ta...Hell no. For us especially. We build up fairy tale pregnancies but it is some hard ass work.<br /><br />That being said, holy crap does a newborn kick your ass too.<br /><br />Love it anyhow!Rocciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16240177887229400836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-76683425759557697042011-09-17T12:42:34.772-07:002011-09-17T12:42:34.772-07:00I think that gratitude and complaining can co-exis...I think that gratitude and complaining can co-exist. They definitely do not cancel each other out. I think it is when the primary focus becomes complaining that you have to be careful. If all a person does is complain then it can make them hard to be around. I have not found that you complain that much at all, so I'm not talking about you.Momasitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02687149140980965721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-7356028455465719842011-09-17T08:59:39.868-07:002011-09-17T08:59:39.868-07:00I think you raise a good point and that it can com...I think you raise a good point and that it can come off as ungrateful. I think it helps to acknowledge what is going on and call yourself out on the gratitude issue. I would also imagine that complaining to other pregnant women may be easier since they know where you are coming from very well :) <br />Hoping you start to feel better sooncdghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13174907373129154516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-28453543393179584172011-09-17T03:10:18.109-07:002011-09-17T03:10:18.109-07:00I agree, I don't think complaining means you a...I agree, I don't think complaining means you are ungrateful, but it can be hard in this community to hear it. I do and honestly have been meaning to post about this for a long time, really appreciate your sensitivity. I have been reading your blog for a long time and I really respect your preface warnings. For some reason you come across to me as so sensitive, sincere and thoughtful (not to Gurleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05562588754936930732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-15881605999432398922011-09-16T14:30:44.078-07:002011-09-16T14:30:44.078-07:00You are free to write and vent ....this is your sp...You are free to write and vent ....this is your space to do so.....but I personally would not complain here about pregnancy related symptoms......I see it as ungrateful.....just my opinion.Shanelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11825882418484714630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-85139732679238769652011-09-16T10:46:23.899-07:002011-09-16T10:46:23.899-07:00@Princess: I think your point about your audience ...@Princess: I think your point about your audience is well taken. For example, I know starting a new workout regimen or running a marathon would make my legs sore, but I probably wouldn't complain about that to a friend who was in a wheelchair or had an amputation. Complaining to that person would just highlight what she didn't have, in the same way that complaining about pregnancy Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-84723596190533242032011-09-16T10:40:58.011-07:002011-09-16T10:40:58.011-07:00I agree in theory. Complaining should not mean th...I agree in theory. Complaining should not mean that someone is ungrateful. But, having attended infertility support groups for two and a half years, I know that many of my IF friends who are still in the trenches perceive complaints as a lack of gratitude. I remember listening to a couple of my formerly infertile friends complain about their pregnancy symptoms when I was going through failed Princess Wahna Bea Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13525236950612612052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-74920025791602859592011-09-16T10:01:36.070-07:002011-09-16T10:01:36.070-07:00Its a tricky subject... I guess alot of the time i...Its a tricky subject... I guess alot of the time it just matters whom you are complaining to and of course what caveats you add. Such as telling an infertile you're nautious and then saying, its fabulous! I tend to have a pretty self depricating sense of humor and so I worry that sometimes I come off as a complainer when really I'm joking about things I'm thankful for... so I guess Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03806744763433165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-76016347239803772302011-09-16T08:39:58.855-07:002011-09-16T08:39:58.855-07:00I agree with you 100%! They are absolutely compati...I agree with you 100%! They are absolutely compatible and gratitude does not negate irritation any more than irritation would negate gratitude. Just as seeing someone else's loss does not negate your own happiness in the community we are so closely intertwined with at this point. We are humans; capable of very complex emotions. <br /><br />And, for what it's worth, I don't think Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16008902425809438459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-68737020914455654862011-09-16T07:06:39.348-07:002011-09-16T07:06:39.348-07:00To think that everyone should be happy about every...To think that everyone should be happy about everything all of the time is a little dangerous. When someone complains that their legs hurt after all of that walking, only to be shut down with "Well, at least you can walk!" completely diminishes/dismisses the real pain felt in that person's legs right now. <br /><br />To try to stay only upbeat is nearly impossible. However, I Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07052774273963187257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-73833140978187533512011-09-16T06:09:33.474-07:002011-09-16T06:09:33.474-07:00I have thought about this before too. I complain a...I have thought about this before too. I complain about my little guy crying for 8 hours a day, but I am beyond grateful for him. I'm not dissatisfied or annoyed with my little one, but more wishing that I could do something to change the situation. Same with IVF, I complained about going through it and the hurt butI am so very grateful. So yes, I do agree, just because someone complains doesnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com