A mom posted on my local twin moms' group's Fac.ebo.ok page last week that she was feeling overwhelmed and hoping it was just a phase that she was going through where she felt like she couldn't get anything accomplished. She has 10-month-old twins and has recently returned to work part-time as well.
I certainly cannot speak for all mothers of twins, or for all mothers who work outside the home, or for all mothers-of-twins-who-work-outside-the-home. . . but if my experience is at all a representative sample, it could be a long time before that feeling goes away. As I think I've mentioned here on a number of prior occasions, I feel like I am constantly behind.
Obviously I get SOME things accomplished, both at home and at work--if I didn't, by now, more than three years into this parenting experience, I would now be unemployed and child protective services likely would've removed our children from our care--but there are so many more things that I must leave UNDONE on a daily and weekly basis that it SEEMS that I'm not accomplishing much, or sometimes, anything. Especially when it comes to things like dishes, laundry and general tidying, which just need to be done again when you've just done them yesterday, or even earlier that same day.
I think the secret to maintaining some shred of sanity as you live through this experience is prioritizing and letting go of the notion that you will get everything done. You won't--you can't--and you just have to accept that.
Monday, April 6, 2015
Don't have time for a full post. . . luckily it's not expected on Microblog Monday. . .
- The boys had a good Easter. . . insofar as they define a good Easter by getting an Easter basket they like, including plenty of candy, and finding plenty of eggs on their Easter egg hunt. (Thus far they have no clue what the holiday is actually about, and I'm a bit at a loss as to how one might explain the resurrection to 3-year-olds.)
- I finally got a massage on Saturday after over 3 months of failing to fit it into my schedule. It was long-overdue and much-needed.
- My husband was super-psyched that Wis.consin beat Kent.ucky in the Final Four on Saturday. I didn't much care which team won, but it was a really good game (well, the second half that I got to watch was good).
- My dad is home from the hospital and doing better.
- Work is stressful and busy but generally going well. I sometimes wonder what I was thinking by choosing this profession, but at this point, over ten years in, don't know what else I'd do instead.
- My mom left for Oh.io last week, and I already miss her. She won't be back until September.