Today I am participating in a book tour for the book Life from Scratch. Although it is not strictly infertility-related, the book was written by the absolutely fabulous Melissa Ford, AKA Lollipop Goldstein of Stirrup Queens.
If you don't know Melissa, at least online, you should. She maintains a blog roll of thousands of IF blogs and is very kind and approachable, a real community builder.
You can buy her book in paperback here, or in Kindle edition here.
I am going to post, and answer three discussion questions about the book. Feel free to share your own answers in the comments section.
To continue to the next leg of this book tour, please visit the main list at Write Mind Open Heart.
(Main character) Rachel's blog gets very popular when she wins a blogging award, and she starts averaging about one hundred thousand hits per day. Would you want your blog to become that popular, or would you prefer to stay small?
Hmm, this is a tough question. On the one hand, the topics about which I write are rather intimate, and I would hate to think that there are enough women actively struggling with IF to get 100,000 hits a day. (Can't imagine the subject matter of my blog would interest too many others who don't know me.)
On the other hand, it would be a really cool feeling to know that that many people liked your writing enough to visit your blog. And you could make money from your blog with that much traffic. Hey, money I could put into our treatment fund! :-)
While she is trying to move on from her divorce, Rachel cleans out The Box--a box of sentimental mementos from her marriage. Do you have a Box of your own? What do you (or would you) keep in it?
I do have such a box. Nowadays it is quite small. It contains small mementos from various relationships I had prior to meeting my husband MM, mostly cards and photos.
Why would I save these things, you might ask? I am saving the items this box on the off chance that I someday have a daughter who might be curious about her mom's pre-marriage life. Yes, weird and sad, I know.
At one time in my life, I saved these things for a different reason. I used to periodically take out some of the items to look at and reminisce. But since I have been married, the box is sealed with my BFF's name on it. This is so that, in the event of my untimely death, MM knows to deliver it to my BFF; I wouldn't want him to open it and think that it meant that I still loved any of my exes after I'm gone. That's not why I'm saving the stuff, but I'm not sure he'd understand that, especially if I were no longer around to explain.
Rachel talks about the kinship of marriage and how being on the "crazy ride" together is better than waiting outside in line. Do we rush to/stay in marriage because we think the alternative is too isolating to think about?
I think that this is true of some people. I happen to have about an equal number of friends who long for couplehood and who embrace the freedoms of being single. I certainly have had friends who have stayed in not-so-happy marriages for fear of being alone, but they are the minority in my circle.