Day 08 → Someone who made your life hell, or treated you like shit.
I'll be candid and say that I do not easily tolerate being treated like shit and am pretty good about quickly ridding my life of people who make my life hell. I realize that sometimes the people responsible are ones who are not easily cut out; I guess I am fortunate in that I haven't encountered any of those in my life. So the people who have fallen into this category have, by and large, been ones who I was free to eliminate from my life. Because of this, I will have to go back a while to find someone to write about here.
The most memorable person to fall into this category is someone I will call "Thayer." He was the first guy I ever had strong romantic feelings for--beyond just a kid's crush--and we were involved in high school, though we were never boyfriend/girlfriend. He was also the guy with whom I had my first sexual experience. (Though I rarely think of him these days, he has been on my mind lately because he contacted me via Fac.ebo.ok.)
Thayer was, well, a player. LOL. He never dated me exclusively and, in fact, even "hooked up" with a couple of my friends over the two years or so that I was "in love" with him. He dated (and had sex with) lots of other women besides and yet continued to string me along and tell me that he really loved me.
I finally got wise after a couple of years and stopped letting him take advantage of me. . . . but not until I had spent *way* too much of my time pining for, and chasing after, him. What a waste.
In a way, though, I have to thank Thayer. It was his ill treatment of me (along with that of a couple of subsequent boyfriends) which helped mold my "take no bullshit" approach to relationships. Being involved with him, and other guys who were equally bad to me, opened my eyes to the fact that sometimes being alone is a preferable alternative to being in a (bad/unhealthy) relationship. This knowledge allowed me to wait until I was older to marry someone with whom I am very compatible, so in a way, I am grateful for it.
I think all women have that ONE asshole guy in their life who have changed the way that they look at relationships and/or men. I'm glad Thayer happened so you could realize how much you are worth.
ReplyDeleteI hated reading this. I hate guys like this.
ReplyDeleteThat is why we aren't good adoption candidates. I am divorced due to an ass like this Thayer. By the time Rocco and I are married long enough to clear the Divorce Tax, he is too old. Ha!