Over the time I've been reading infertility-related blogs, many, many of the women whose blogs I've read have gotten pregnant, some more than once. (Happily, many of them are parenting now and no longer TTC.)
When someone whose blog I had been reading for a while got pregnant, oddly enough, it never made me feel bad. It didn't give me hope--because, although I know some people feel this way, that just isn't the way my mind works--but if I'd been reading the blog for a while, I'd form a sort of attachment to its writer and was happy for her. Plus, by definition, she wasn't a "fertile who doesn't get it," so I had less difficulty digesting news of her pregnancy.
Many of these bloggers continued blogging throughout their pregnancies, and I enjoyed keeping up with their progress. If I wasn't in a mental space on a given day to read about pregnancy, I would just skip that blog for a day or two until the mood passed. Only on rare occasion did I stop reading an infertility blog entirely when it turned into a pregnancy-after-infertility blog.
I will say, though, that there have been times I have visited a blog for the first time, or visited a blog that I only visited sporadically, and when I found out that the writer was pregnant, I felt gut-punched. Many is the time I followed a link from Stirrup Queens, or ICLW, or another blog's blog roll, only to find out that the blog was now all about pregnancy.
When this happened, I wasn't looking for blogs about pregnancy-after-infertility; I was looking for blogs about infertility. The last thing I wanted was another pregnant person in my life, even my online life.
Now that I am pregnant myself, I have mixed feelings about continuing to write here. I don't plan to delete this blog. It contains a lot of my very true and honest experiences from the past 2+ years, and in addition to wanting to preserve many of those for myself, I think my experiences might, in some way, be of some help to someone else going through the sh1tstorm of infertility.
At the same time, I started this blog to write about my infertility. We had already been TTC for nearly a year when I started writing it, and it had become clear by then that getting pregnant wasn't going to happen easily for me, and maybe not at all. While I was not entirely without hope that I might someday get pregnant when I started writing here, I did feel that the odds were against me.
So I never gave much thought to the question of "What will I do with my blog when I get pregnant?" But I am thinking about it now.
I will, of course, at least update you all on the outcome of our ultrasound on July 11. I mean, in my mind, despite two great betas, my pregnancy won't really be "confirmed" until then. But after that, well. . . .
I put the question to you, my readers. Should I continue to write about my pregnancy here? Should I start another blog about the pregnancy and just come and write here when/if my infertility angst rears its head? (If I do that, anyone who wants to read the new pregnancy blog would be welcome to, and I would totally understand anyone who didn't want to.)
Does it bother you when you discover an "infertility" blog only to find out that its writer is already pregnant? Do you think that the blogger should make it clear to first-time readers somehow?