Thursday, February 6, 2014

Upside

I often feel that the majority of the posts I write here focus on the negative.  I don't think I am alone in this practice; I think that many of us use our blogs as a place to vent or to record difficult thoughts or feelings.

That said, there is so much more that is good about my sons than bad.  Yes, there are challenges to having twin two-year-olds.  No doubt about that.  But at the same time, two is a very fun age.  The boys are a constant source of entertainment, and it is really great to see them learning and growing every day.

MM and I remind each other often that the same behaviors that we find difficult to manage signify appropriate development in our sons.  We would much rather they be going through this phase than not.

Also, while I will admit that I am more than a little biased as their mother, I think that both AJ and MJ have very likable little personalities.  They are two very lovable little boys.  MJ makes me laugh every day, and AJ is a little sweetheart.

My life is much more complicated now than it was three years ago.  I sleep less, I have less money to spend, and my time is not my own.

But in addition to the fact that I love them both dearly, I feel that my life is richer and more nuanced for having these two little men in it.  And for that reason, I wouldn't wish to go back to the days before they were here. . . even though it would mean more sleep, more money and more time for myself.

7 comments:

  1. Yes! I couldn't agree with you more.

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  2. It is, undeniably, the hardest job we'll ever have, but nothing breaks the heart open like being a mother.

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  3. Totally agree. I have 20 month old twin girls via DEIVF, and yes, it's hard and challenging and tiring, but I wouldn't change it for the world. They are such a wonderful source of entertainment and they constantly astound me with how much they are learning, so quickly.

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  4. I can't wait to experience motherhood. You are doing a wonderful job!

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  5. You couldn't have said it better!! I always appreciate your honesty in your posts

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  6. Yep. I groan and groan about my time not being my own and about money and sleep and all those things, but these kids... man. I read someone say recently in response to all those surveys that say parents of young children are the unhappiest people around that the moments of joy are so transcendent that it makes up for all the crappy moments. It feels true.

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