I only have time for a very quick post, as I am at work on a Sunday and want to get out of here as quickly as possible and home to my boys. (In case you were wondering why I am busily searching for another job. . . .)
I just wanted to say that I very much appreciate all of you who took the time to read, and comment on, my last post. I think your points were very well taken. Yes, guilt does seem to be an inherent part of motherhood, and yes, some of the questions asked may, in fact, be unanswerable.
I went over the questionnaire with MM, and he wasn't sure how to answer some of the questions either. He made the observation that some of the questions seemed to be geared toward older children (like questions about whether others can understand our child's pronunciation) and guessed that they are not specifically aimed at AJ's age group. Which makes sense, given that most parents (1) might not notice a speech delay until their child is a bit older and (2) might wait to have their child evaluated even if they noticed a delay. Being able to say only 3-4 words at 18 months is probably not seen as a big problem by a lot of people. (Just from firsthand experience, I know at least three friends whose children reached their 2nd birthdays saying as few words as AJ does now, and they waited until after that age before they even mentioned it to their respective pediatricians.)
So maybe I am not an awful mother. I am probably being too hard on myself. I appreciate your offering me your perspectives.