MM and I had agreed that, if our NT scan was negative, after the NT scan, we would start telling people about the pregnancy. I guess I should really say "telling more people," because quite a few people already knew. . . . including anyone who reads this blog (though most of you don't know us in real life), several of my close friends, my sister, our parents, a couple of MM's and my coworkers.
Yesterday I sent out an email to all the friends and extended family members who didn't yet know I was pregnant, and MM gave his mom the go ahead to tell her friends and extended family. Today I posted a brief status update on Fa.ceb.ook letting people know that I am pregnant with twins, due in February. (I know, many of us hate reading these kinds of things on Fa.ceb.ook, and I've ranted about such postings on this very blog in the past. . . . but there are a number of people I wanted to know I'm pregnant with whom Fa.ceb.ook is my only link. I kept it short and sweet and skipped the ultrasound photos.)
As expected, I've received lots of congratulatory emails and comments. (A commonly used word is "wow," LOL.) It's been nice to share the news, as I am not a secretive person by nature. It's been odd not mentioning I'm pregnant to certain people, when it's such a huge part of what's going on with me. . . . particularly with feeling like crap the majority of the time.
Of course, today I had the irrational (but not entirely unexpected) thought "What if something goes wrong?" The downside to letting people know about my pregnancy is that I/we will have to also tell them if something bad happens. I didn't allow myself to dwell on this thought, though; we just saw that the babies were doing fine on Monday, and I have no rational reason to believe anything has changed since then.
Oh, and to people who have asked if we did fertility treatments or IVF--yes, there have been a few--I have simply responded "Yes, we did" and left it at that. I don't see the point in making a big deal out of that, and I actually like the idea that people know that we very much wanted to be parents and that these aren't "oops" babies. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I am fine with people knowing this pregnancy is very, um, pre-meditated and planned.
No one has asked me if we used donor eggs, and I can't imagine that anyone will. After all, most people who haven't dealt with infertility firsthand think IVF is the cure-all for everyone who can't conceive, even women over 40 like me. And while conception at 40 is rarer than at, say, 25, it still happens naturally quite a bit. (For other people, not for us, obviously.) Four years ago, when I had never tried to conceive myself or known I was infertile, I don't know that I'd have guessed a 40-year-old woman might have used donor eggs to achieve pregnancy.
Another step along the path.
P.S. I wanted to address mommyinwaiting's comment on my last post about whether I'm going to continue to keep you all in suspense about the gender prediction. I am, just because I don't entirely trust it this early. The tech said pretty clearly that the angles on both babies were less than ideal for predicting, and as I understand it, the difference between boy and girl is all about "the angle of the dangle" at this early gestational age. Rest assured that once we have a more solid prediction at our anatomy scan (scheduled for October 7), I will share it. In the meantime, if you think you know what we're having, why not vote on the poll I've posted?