Friday, November 12, 2010


Wow, it's been ten days since I posted!  It's not that I don't have anything to write about; it's just that I don't have much opportunity to write.  After spending the majority of my days working at the computer, I'm not in much of a mood to log on again once I get home.  The fact that it is now getting dark before I even leave the office doesn't help.

For a quick update, I'm going to use bullet points.  Each of the topics here deserves its own full post. . . . maybe some day soon.

  • MM and I attended the adoption seminar and, to greatly abbreviate, now that we've learned more, we have decided adoption is not for us, but for completely different reasons than he had before.
  • In light of our decision that adoption is not for us, and our desire not to remain childless, we have agreed to go ahead with DE IVF.  (I have been leaning this way for a while, but we have now agreed.)  Plans are being made for a cycle sometime between May and August 2011.
  • I had my fourth counseling session last Sunday, and NC and I mutually agreed that I am not in need of more sessions at present.  My stated goal in starting therapy was for me to accept that I would not have a genetic child of my own so that I could move forward with DE IVF.  Though I'm sure I will still have moments of sadness, I feel I have accomplished this goal.  I'm glad I did this; even though I only had a few sessions, I think it really helped me.
  • Three of my wonderful regular readers (whose blogs I read as well) are pregnant!  One after her first IVF cycle, one after a DE FET, and one after a donor embryo cycle.  I'm very excited for them! 
  • Two other bloggers I read are in the 2WW, one for her first DE cycle, one for a DE FET.  I'm rooting for you!
  • A close friend of mine (who is not infertile) told me last Saturday that she is pregnant with #2.  (Her 21-month-old son is my godson.)  I felt a twinge of "why not me?", but for the first time in a LONG time, my happiness for her completely outweighed my negative feelings.  And she's fertile!  I think that's progress.
  • I am getting adjusted to my new job and slowly learning where everything is and getting cases assigned to me.  No problems so far.
That's me in a nutshell!  I have a busy weekend planned, so I don't know when I'll post again.  Know that I am reading all my regular blogs on my BlackBerry at intervals during the day; I'm just not commenting much because it's too hard to type on the handheld.

EDITED TO ADD:  Though we have agreed to go ahead with DE, for some reason, MM still thinks we could somehow miraculously conceive on our own.  It's led to some disagreements, as I am THROUGH with OPKs, checking cervical mucus/position, or even keeping track of what CD I am on.  Yes, I know the RE said there is a 5% chance of our conceiving on our own and that 5% is not zero. . . . . but logic tells me that after 33 or 34 unsuccessful cycles, all of which had perfectly timed intercourse, it ain't gonna happen.


  1. I am interested to hear what your reasons are for not adopting. I have thought about it, but I am not sure if it is right for me either. What did you learn?

  2. Hey S...thanks for the congrats. Wow! You certainly have made ALOT of progress with respect to DE/adoption decision. I'll be here rooting for you and MM as you begin your DE cycle next spring. Thanks for the is Beta # 2 and nervously awaiting the result.


  3. Oh S, I've missed you! I hope you are liking your new job! I would blog so much less too if I couldn't do it at work:)
    It is great that you have come to peace about DE ivf!
    I would love to hear more about your thoughts on the adoption meeting if you would ever like to share.

  4. Thanks for the update. it sounds like you have reached a true moment of clarity. Even better, you are able to be happy for so many as they announce their PG. Wow. That's huge.

    I too would be interested in hearing why you are not choosing to adopt at this point because my DH and I are just starting to talk about adoption.

  5. Hi S! Glad to hear that you and MM were able to come to an agreement to move forward with DE. Also, congrats from graduating from the counselling. (is that something to congratulation someone for?)
    I hope you like your new position and that things continue to go well there.

  6. wow!!! Thats a lot of stuff going on there. I am so glad that you guys are on the same page with DE. (can you send your husband over to my house to talk some sense into mine?).
    Good luck with everything.

  7. She speaks! Great to hear from you.

    I hope your decision settles in over the next few weeks. It takes some time.

    I am delighted for you. I cannot tell you how much more fun it has been this time around. Well, you know what I mean.


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