Saturday, March 10, 2012

Where to go from here

I've been posting very little of late.  Not only am I short on time--what with caring for the boys and all--but I also seem to be short on things to say.

I mentioned in a recent post that I don't think much about my infertility any more now that our boys have arrived.  That's still true for me.  By virtue of the path we have taken to parenthood, I will always identify, to some degree, with being infertile.  I mean, even most women who use IVF to achieve pregnancy end up with children who are genetically related to them.  Taking an alternate path to parenthood using third party reproduction sets me permanently apart in several ways from those who conceive naturally.

And I don't feel that I've "conquered" or "overcome" infertility; rather, I feel like we found a "work around" that was successful for us.  (Not that I care: my goal was to be a parent, and now I am, twice over.)

I don't imagine I will have much more to say on the topic of infertility, given the way I've felt for the past several weeks.  Yes, I will always think of myself as infertile.  It took so much time, effort and money for us to become parents.  I may still sometimes be bothered by "fertiles" who conceive easily and take their fecundity for granted.  But my thoughts are now elsewhere.  My family is complete.

I've never wanted to become a "mommy blogger."  I debated about even continuing this blog through my pregnancy but ultimately decided to continue writing so that the readers with whom I'd formed connections could follow my story to its conclusion. . . which, after all, was really parenthood and not just pregnancy.

I'm not ready to completely shut down this blog, but don't be surprised if I don't post much (or at all).  I will still be continuing to follow the blogs and stories of all my regular bloggers.  Anyone who wants to contact me can do so via the email address listed in my profile.

Ciao for now.

4 comments:

  1. My ONLY request...that you PLEASE blog about DE related topics as they come to fruition because you are SOOOO bang on that couples like your and mine were able to "work around" infertility via third party reproduction. You feel EXACTLY like I do. Just make the promise to me as I will make that promise to you and post always about any DE related issues. Much love S...you will catch your breath as a new mom soon...promise!!

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  2. I'll be sad if you decide to no longer blog...but I completely understand since you are not interested in having a mommy blog. I found through my infertility blog that I really enjoy blogging, so I decided to continue blogging through my family blog. I'm actually really enjoying connecting with other twin mommies! Post some pics of those sweet boys when you get a chance!

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  3. I don't know how you feel yet, but I do hope that you stick around and continue to update us from time to time.
    I hope you and your doubled family are doing great!

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  4. I know where you're coming from - sometimes I feel like blogging about a fun day with Scout at the park isn't going to be terribly interesting to anyone out there. Some bloggers, now blessed with children, have stopped blogging and turned to Facebook, inviting their blog sisters to become FB friends. I have more to blog about lately because of my current pregnancy, but I feel like my blog will eventually peter out, unless I continue it for my own purposes (ie, keeping a record of my kids' childhood events).

    The good thing is, you and your family are happy and living a beautiful life!

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