tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post6937078776019504462..comments2023-06-01T08:53:53.341-07:00Comments on Misconceptions About Conception: Advice on dealing with infertilityShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-13492024699280140102011-07-24T16:17:02.857-07:002011-07-24T16:17:02.857-07:00The letter writer said she puts things on hold bec...The letter writer said she puts things on hold because "soon she might be pregnant" not because she was undergoing treatment. Those are two different mindsets. If you don't schedule your vacation for May/June because you are undergoing IVF, that is one thing. If you are not planning a vaca in September because you are undergoing treatment in May and you think you MIGHT be pregnant Chickenpighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09442755180328605920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-90625210029076616762011-07-23T20:21:44.740-07:002011-07-23T20:21:44.740-07:00Easier said than done... I have been thinking abou...Easier said than done... I have been thinking about switching jobs for the past 2 years but when it comes to actually doing it I keep telling myself, what if I get pregnant next week... And I know it is not the best way to go about it but new job=stress and I don't need stress right now.. Anyways I think a person who has not been through similar issue is not qualified to give an "Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-59146085719940855412011-07-22T15:08:55.375-07:002011-07-22T15:08:55.375-07:00Hmmm, it is insensitive, for sure but I'm not ...Hmmm, it is insensitive, for sure but I'm not sure what good advice is, in this instance... I don't think there is any. I think that the best advice is simply to make priorities and then live by them, and for sure that often sucks, but infertility is not the only situation in which that sucks.JessiferSeabshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02011040052433366321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-22427135189300631492011-07-21T18:47:06.776-07:002011-07-21T18:47:06.776-07:00Ass-vice from a fertile is what I think...Ass-vice from a fertile is what I think...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-77362169710765371032011-07-21T15:46:45.352-07:002011-07-21T15:46:45.352-07:00I agree with you S. I lived like Carolyn for 5 ye...I agree with you S. I lived like Carolyn for 5 years. And every time we managed to get away or have some spare time we always felt guilty that we should be saving the $ for IVF or that this would be our last vacation without children. It sucks and in the end, it is devastating and you begin to resent taking those trips. There are only so many nights you can go out and enjoy life because you R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09730805885076066358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-76027967159010008132011-07-21T15:16:39.029-07:002011-07-21T15:16:39.029-07:00This is what I affectionately call "assvice&q...This is what I affectionately call "assvice". Advice from a fertile that means well. Why didn't she tell her to just relax while she was at it?!Momasitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02687149140980965721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-86646949025538303852011-07-21T12:27:58.085-07:002011-07-21T12:27:58.085-07:00@cgd, for what it's worth, I believe Carolyn H...@cgd, for what it's worth, I believe Carolyn Hax has children, as she's made reference to them in past columns. Based on her answer here, though, I'll bet she didn't have much/any trouble conceiving.<br /><br />I was disappointed by this answer because she has addressed infertility-related problems in other contexts and has seemed much more understanding.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-75558722385655219322011-07-21T12:18:41.162-07:002011-07-21T12:18:41.162-07:00I agree 110% with you. I think this advice column...I agree 110% with you. I think this advice columnist (clearly fertile or not even thinking about kids) is totally off base and completely minimizes the emotional, physical, and financial strains of IVF and IF. I also worry that this is what the rest of the world thinks and then just assumes I am a negative person who likes to complain a lot when they see the way in which I am managing my IF andcdghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13174907373129154516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-25077690597752674482011-07-21T12:12:17.416-07:002011-07-21T12:12:17.416-07:00Obviously Carolyn has never experienced infertilit...Obviously Carolyn has never experienced infertility. I understand what she is trying to say but she has no concept of the emotional aspects of infertility and can't provide infertile myrtle with a valuable response.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00167562100679148530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-45315176646740757872011-07-21T10:18:04.383-07:002011-07-21T10:18:04.383-07:00I think both ladies make great points. I have fel...I think both ladies make great points. I have felt what Infertile Myrtle is feeling for 2.5 years and I hate that I feel like my "life" hasn't started. I wish I could just book trips and plan but I did that once (our big europe trip) and it bit me in the but for timing of our IVF, then we had to go out of town for a wedding and it did the same. The advice is great but not Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03806744763433165902noreply@blogger.com