tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post8588947343930714866..comments2023-06-01T08:53:53.341-07:00Comments on Misconceptions About Conception: Non-infertility-related advice soughtShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-7986167691147767962011-01-18T15:53:13.325-07:002011-01-18T15:53:13.325-07:00Gurlee, you are far more forgiving than I. If thi...Gurlee, you are far more forgiving than I. If this were a friend instead of my mother, the friendship would be over, and I never would have had to post this. ;-)<br /><br />I think setting some firm boundaries is going to be the way to go. It will be difficult, as my mom is a "give-her-an-inch-she'll-take-a-mile" kind of person, but I think it is necessary.<br /><br />For Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-20990243778557284922011-01-18T09:32:34.586-07:002011-01-18T09:32:34.586-07:00Seven weeks in the same house as your mother, wow....Seven weeks in the same house as your mother, wow. What a tough situation. I don't know that the same rules apply with family, it sounds like your mom has some unresolved issues that are her own. Lying to you about something somewhat trivial, odd. I don't know that I would ditch a friendship over that nor would I end my relationship with my mom. Tough call, S. You may want to continue to Gurleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05562588754936930732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-17940512905572349512011-01-17T13:56:50.786-07:002011-01-17T13:56:50.786-07:00In the end, when your mom has passed, you might re...In the end, when your mom has passed, you might regret not keeping some sort of contact.<br />That being said, 7 weeks is a long time for even people who adore each other to co-habitate. Maybe it would be best to meet on neutral ground in the future and to limit time together. And give yourself some time away first.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-88938373238806393212011-01-15T02:08:34.440-07:002011-01-15T02:08:34.440-07:00The timing is perfect. She's leaving now so yo...The timing is perfect. She's leaving now so you have some time to cool off. <br /><br />I wouldn't sever the ties over this. Not because it's unimportant (it *is* important and your indignation is justified), but because you might regret it later on (with a cooler head) and find that mending it at a later stage would be much more difficult for you (as it would include some painful Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-54472133124607300362011-01-14T20:24:21.181-07:002011-01-14T20:24:21.181-07:00I have no real advice for you, but I can see that ...I have no real advice for you, but I can see that this is a really complicated situation and you and your mother have a lot of history together. I think perhaps telling how you feel may help, regardless of she responds. At least you can know that you did all that you could to achieve honesty in your relationship.<br />good luck to you.cdghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13174907373129154516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-76073179622513586862011-01-14T17:48:06.568-07:002011-01-14T17:48:06.568-07:00I too am navigating a difficult relationship with ...I too am navigating a difficult relationship with my mother - I wish you all the best.<br /><br />RJAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-54645714837550444352011-01-14T15:47:58.347-07:002011-01-14T15:47:58.347-07:00I may be coming from an entirely different perspec...I may be coming from an entirely different perspective here, but here's my two cents.<br /><br />For years, I struggled with what kind of relationship to have with my father. It eventually landed me in therapy. What I learned? There shouldn't be a higher standard of what's acceptable and what's not. Plus, there shouldn't be the fall back of...but he's/she's my (Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08507118457609696378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-49148812075751341352011-01-14T14:48:09.007-07:002011-01-14T14:48:09.007-07:00In your situation, I wouldn't treat her any di...In your situation, I wouldn't treat her any differently than I would treat a friend. What you do now depends on whether you want to maintain a relationship with her despite her obvious shortcomings/mistakes/shitty behavior.<br /><br />This is not the same as your situation but my mom has done some unforgivable things to me (imo of course) but I want a relationship with her. I know that she jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06645802594940433840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-62556523981513453632011-01-14T14:45:27.377-07:002011-01-14T14:45:27.377-07:00Wait a sec. She'd been staying with you for SE...Wait a sec. She'd been staying with you for SEVEN weeks?!!!?? That's really long time to have a house guest. I have a feeling that there's a back story that we're missing here. I'm surprised that something didn't happen before now!<br /><br />I can only take 3-5 days with family and/or friends.<br /><br />I can't tell you if you should ever talk to her again. I think Jemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480192191711301637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-17947621471748882972011-01-14T13:51:14.844-07:002011-01-14T13:51:14.844-07:00wow, tough situation. i think i wpuld not treat he...wow, tough situation. i think i wpuld not treat her any differently.Momasitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02687149140980965721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-44592970102189897052011-01-14T11:47:12.158-07:002011-01-14T11:47:12.158-07:00I really don't know what to tell you. It'...I really don't know what to tell you. It's a tough situation. Maybe some distance for awhile will help you figure things out. It sounds like there's a bigger issue here, like maybe some mental problems? I would say to run it by your therapist, she can probably give you some good insight.Franciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05034004540141447860noreply@blogger.com