tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post3708190390276197390..comments2023-06-01T08:53:53.341-07:00Comments on Misconceptions About Conception: "Childless" or "Childfree" = Insult?Shttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-10599728333444882462015-09-19T11:05:02.693-07:002015-09-19T11:05:02.693-07:00Parenting has such a high degree of responsibility...Parenting has such a high degree of responsibility and commitment that does not end at a certain time. Having said that, Kim is just giving her version of mothering. I think she knows the difference between nurturing and mentoring and the role of motherhood. It's a great discussion point though, isn't it? Deathstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10012800256411878445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-29416280633837704442015-09-18T20:05:54.630-07:002015-09-18T20:05:54.630-07:00I like Clarissa Pinkola Este's concept of &quo...I like Clarissa Pinkola Este's concept of "little wild mothers." Basically it means that as you grow up, you need your own mother less (with achieved independence) but still need women (the term can even include men) who take on a mother role without being a literal parent. I like the idea because it emphasizes that while we shouldn't stay children forever we still need to be torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-85752047624772816142015-09-16T12:20:38.970-07:002015-09-16T12:20:38.970-07:00It isn't a competition. But words have meaning...It isn't a competition. But words have meaning, and "parent" and "mother" have specific meanings that are not those she assigns to them.<br /><br />I think Lollipop makes an excellent point (above) about the idea of "mother" as a verb vs. a noun.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-79240387270429199222015-09-16T10:19:21.047-07:002015-09-16T10:19:21.047-07:00I'm sorry, but my response is "so?" ...I'm sorry, but my response is "so?" Who cares if someone calls themselves a mother even though there is no biological or financial connection to that for which she is mothering. It's easy for us to pass her comment off as ignorant. But it's what she knows as mother. I'm ok with her calling herself a mother. some of us have this privilege of having that title in its My Vegashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232402432779260397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-78836790187663505842015-09-15T16:21:30.667-07:002015-09-15T16:21:30.667-07:00I think you can definitely mother as a verb, but m...I think you can definitely mother as a verb, but mother as a noun connotes a responsibility that isn't contained in the act of nurturing. You can not mother your child but still be a mother, or you can mother someone else's child and not be a mother. Or you can both mother and be a mother. (Or, equally, father or be a father.) I haven't heard her interview, but I heard about it.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-77655884804087526152015-09-15T15:18:51.196-07:002015-09-15T15:18:51.196-07:00I actually posted this comment to the article (wit...I actually posted this comment to the article (without listening to the entire interview) and was surprised with one of my longest friends (who is single, without children, and the godmother to my oldest son and aunt to infant twins) responded so harshly.<br /><br />"Me: Yes, Kim, there are many ways to express your matenal side, none of which make you a mother. I'm a godmother and closeIt Is What It Ishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07490236377517519314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-49600175918752936822015-09-15T13:23:00.911-07:002015-09-15T13:23:00.911-07:00I agree. You have highlighted several of the most ...I agree. You have highlighted several of the most obvious ways in which the responsibilities of a parent differ from those of a loving aunt or mentor.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97117424991901100.post-52661471155380936832015-09-15T13:12:22.048-07:002015-09-15T13:12:22.048-07:00Parents...
...have to clean up the vomit, the uri...Parents...<br /><br />...have to clean up the vomit, the urine, the mud, the poo.<br />...get up night after night after night after night after night to feed/care for their child.<br />...decide what school to send the child to, what extracurricular activities to go to.<br />...decide what a child eats, and when, and how much.<br />...are financially responsible for their children (up to a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com